How do “Strong Women” honor their husbands?

Stephanie Raquel  —  September 6, 2011 — 4 Comments

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Admittedly, I have yet to read “Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men Into Boys” by Kay S. Hymowitz.  But this title is one that I keep coming across in recent weeks.

After having coffee with a single friend & college sorority sister on our summer vacation to Boston, it indeed seems like more and more men have lost their motivation to grow up.

But at the same time … DO strong women really lead to weak men? I’m not a professional researcher and I’m certainly not a theologian by trade. But this question has also come into conversations I’ve had with a younger woman who is seriously dating a guy and wondering what does biblical submission in marriage *truly* look like?  Can a strong woman be happily married?  Personally, I would argue yes, she can — though it depends on where she gets her strength.

The best definition for submission I know of comes from Dr. Tony Evans, via Beth Moore:  “Submission is knowing when to duck … so God can slap your husband upside the head.”  Isn’t that great?

When we are fully relying on God, we derive our strength from Him.  This gives us the wisdom and insight not just in how to act around our husbands, but also how best to be praying for them, encouraging them in their roles as husbands.

It’s also worth noting that while married women submit to their own husbands, men and single women also are called to submit … to authorities, to their employers, to their pastors, or others who have a leadership role in their lives.  And when the women are the leaders, they are to do everything they can to make it fully pleasing to the Lord.

 

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4 responses to How do “Strong Women” honor their husbands?

  1. Good stuff! Unfortunately, we live in a society and culture that pushes women to be independent and free themselves from a clinging relatiohship with their spouse. The less we cling to anyone the better. What a lie from satan.

    I enjoyed reading your blog posts and will come back often!

  2. Love your blog and this topic. One that I think the Enemy has used all-too-often to confuse/mislead and divide and agree with you whole-heartedly…if submission is humility then it is central for all of us and if not submitting {especially in marriage} means we’re trying to play the role of the Spirit in our husband’s lives, then we are going to fail every time when the victory is His and He will have his way…nice to ‘meet’ you through the e4e group! Blessings!!!

  3. INteresting. You said: “married women submit to their own husbands, men and single women also are called to submit … to authorities, to their employers, to their pastors, or others who have a leadership role in their lives.”
    You forgot one: all Christians are supposed to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” (it’s the verse right before the one in Ephesians about wives submitting to husbands). (Eph. 5:21) In the context, it’s telling members of Christ’s body they should ALL practice mutual submission–especially in marriage. So yes, I submit to my husband, and he submits to me. We both submit to Christ. Submission is not something that can be demanded, only given. It’s a gift we give each other.

    • Excellent point. So … it’s basically par for the course that if you’re a human on this planet, you’ve gotta submit to someone or something, somewhere. =)

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