The Perfect Leader? What Has #Amazed Me

Stephanie Raquel  —  August 22, 2013 — 17 Comments

Several years ago, I was asked to participate as a mentor to young moms in my church.

I thought the ministry leader, JoAnne, was nuts.  Me??  A mentor?  But my kids are still in the home!  What do I know?

But JoAnne was persistent, and encouraged me to acknowledge what are actually several myths when it comes to being a mentor, which include:

a) You have to be at least 80 years old.

b) You have to know all the answers.

c) You have to be a super hero.

And as my friends at Saddleback’s Twelve conference for small group leaders have pointed out, even great leaders of the bible had issues!  Take a look … :)

Flaws of Biblical Proportions – Finding the Perfect Small Group Leader from on GodTube.

Thankfully, JoAnne helped me realize that No, I didn’t have to have eight+ decades of life experience, and No, I certainly did not need infinite wisdom & a cape.  Besides, by acknowledging that I didn’t know all the answers, God might actually use me in someone else’s life!  And that’s exactly what happened.

Eventually, I said yes to her persistence, and was #Amazed at what God did.  We had a phenomenal year, and I was blessed beyond measure by the moms in my group, and I kept mentoring and discipling another group of women as well.

Two years later, I was asked to serve in my church as the Director of Women’s Ministry.  (In part because I’m a women’s ministry junkie who just kept showing up for everything they offered!)  But also in part simply  because I was able and willing to be used by God, for His Kingdom.  And as a result, I continue to be #amazed at what God has done!

Today, I have the privilege of serving as a Team Leader with Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study. This week, we are examining Chapter 4 of  What Happens When Women Say Yes to God by Lysa TerKeurst.  The chapter is titled, “You Never Know How God Will Use You” and it is entirely true.  As she points out, “God made us for the relationship of His perfect love.  While we are not capable of perfect performance this side of eternity, we are capable of perfect love.” (p. 64)

I spent many years in my youth thinking that I had to be perfect in order for God to use me.  Nothing could be further from the truth!

There is no such thing as a perfect leader.   Only imperfect followers, pursuing a perfect God, who miraculously lets us pal along on the journey.



Stephanie Raquel


17 responses to The Perfect Leader? What Has #Amazed Me

  1. You are an amazing leader and I am so honored to have set under your tutoring and example!! Thank you for giving of yourself and saying #YestoGod. Because of your yes, I have been blessed!!

    • Marlene ~ Thanks for your kind words. They mean the world! And backatcha, my dear… more blessed, less stressed, cuz you said YES! =)

  2. Yes we are ALL “imperfect followers”! I have issues with perfectionism on a daily basis so thank you for that reminder. I too have often thought I was not qualified for certain tasks so I wouldn’t sign up. I’m so glad you knew to say Yes to God. It sounds like you are doing some great work for Him!

    • Indeed, Candace, I am finally starting to get that whole ‘imperfect’ thing down! =) Grateful we serve a mighty God who’s still willing to involve us anyway. =) ~Steph

  3. Love that quote, video and the example you set for us by being such a loving leader. Blessed to serve under you!

    • Awww — you are too sweet, Billie! Thanks for your encouraging words. Love that we are all in this together to learn, stretch and grow. Together we’re accomplishing an awful lot! =) ~Steph

  4. Loved reading your post and that video was hysterical!! Thanks for sharing and thanks for blessing of being our leader and for saying Yes!!

    • Hooray! Someone else who found the video post just as amusing as I did! Thankfully, it’s so true. Very comforting!! =) Appreciate your kind words, Trish! ~Steph

  5. Amen! I loved that last part!! No perfect leaders, bur God will use us if we say “yes”.


  6. Thanks SO much for this!! I felt like you could’ve titled it “Dear Heather…” Having the pleasure of learning from your leadership, this post shows me all that you have been telling me all along:) Thankful for the faith you have in me and for the amazing leader qualities you instill. Blessed by you :)

    • Awwww … soo glad this post ministered to you, Heather. You are SOO welcome for the faith, chica! Pay it forward!! =)

  7. “Oh…look who has the tablets!” So funny. I love reading about how you stepped out of your comfort zone!

  8. What a great blog! Love it! Love it! Love it! Thank you for the reminder of how God uses imperfect people for His perfect purpose and will. He CAN and WILL use us if we allow Him. I am still #amazed at Melissa Ross Taylor’s story. Wow! Thanks for sharing!

  9. Loved the video…I am still laughing! I couldn’t agree with you more when you said, “There is no such thing as a perfect leader. Only imperfect followers, pursuing a perfect God, who miraculously lets us pal along on the journey.” This paling along makes for an interesting journey to say the least! Thanks for sharing!

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