This is the 2nd of a two-part post from a talk I gave recently on dealing with crises in our lives. Some of this I’ve learned by doing things well. And some of it I’ve learned by doing it oh-so-poorly. Nonetheless, here a few more insider tips on what to do when YOU are facing a personal crisis:
- Extend grace – to yourself, and to others. Thank God daily for 1 thing. First and foremost, we’ve got to remember we are all human and that there is no way we can do life perfectly. There are definitely days when I feel like the “Mayor of Schmuckville” who can’t do anything right. But there are also days when I choose to remember that I am loved deeply by the Creator of the Universe! In our house, we nightly ask each other, “How did God bless you today?” Some days were so hard when my girls were very young that the only thing I could think of was, “I have indoor plumbing!” After about a year of this, we also started asking each other, “How did you bless God today?” Even our younger children have appreciated this question and they’ll ask each other, “How did you make God smile?”
- Get a massage … or at a minimum, a mani-pedi. Maybe you can’t afford a massage, but most everyone reading this can afford a $6 bottle of nail polish. Do something for yourself that involves some endorphin-releasing touch. Give and receive hugs (with your hubby or other women) generously!
- Stay connected with friends (especially coffee, breakfast and lunch dates). I have nothing against Girls Night Out (GNO) events, but in the middle of a crisis, it’s awfully hard to fake happy. Spend time with women who are close to you, particularly in settings where you can talk about deeper issues, and maintain eye-to-eye contact. The added truth to this is to establish and foster those friendships when you are not in crisis mode.
- Avoid alcohol and sleep aids, unless a doctor prescribes it. This sort of goes without saying, but it’s a good reminder to completely avoid anything that could lead to addictive behavior, and was sage advice to a sister going thru the early stages of a divorce she didn’t want. Be sure to watch your diet and exercise as well.
- Watch your pace! Feel free to say no to an awful lot of good, in order to receive God’s BEST for your life. I need this advice as much as the next woman. But it’s so true.
At the end of the day, we need to keep Matthew 7:24-27 in mind and build our house upon God’s word in order to withstand the storms of life. Any more suggestions? I’d love to hear ‘em!